RINTIHAN NURANI

Bismillah..

Hi everyone! Today is a great day for me to start a new life! I have been reading a motivational book by Jack Canfield - The Success Principles. For me this book is really practical and can be straight away implemented in your life and I would like to share with you from the first topic onwards so that I can remind myself what did I read. Here is the first success principle! We shall begin......

You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, 

the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.

I you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your feelings and everything!

Taking 100% responsibility means you acknowledge that you create everything that happens to you. It means you understand that you are the cause of all of your experience. If you realize that you have created your current conditions, then you can uncreate and re-create them at will.

99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.

If something doesn't turn out as planned, you will ask yourself, "How did I create that? What was I thinking? What were my beliefs? What did I do or not do to create that results?

Remember this formula :

E + R = O

(Event + Response = Outcome)

The basic idea is that every outcome you experience in life is the result of how you have responded to an earlier event or events in your life. You can instead simply change your responses (R) to the events (E), the way things are, until you get the outcomes (O) you want.

If you don't like your outcomes,

change your responses

Everything you experience in life, both internally and externally is the result of how you have responded to a previous event.

You only have to control over 3 things in your life

If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep on getting

what you've always got

You Have To Give Up Blaming

All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you.

You will never become successful as long as you continue to blame someone or something else for your lack of success. If you are going to be a winner, you have to acknowledge the truth - it is you who took the actions, thought the thoughts, created the feelings and made the choices that got you to where you now are. It was you!

You Have To Give Up Complaining

The man who complains about the way the ball bounces is likely the one who dropped it.

The circumstances you complain about are by their very nature, situations you can change, but you have chosen not to. You can get a better job, find a more loving partner, make more money, live in a nicer house, live in a better neighbourhood, and eat healthier food. But all of these things would require you to change.

People only complain about things they can do something about. We don't complain about the things we have no power over. That's why we never heard people blame on gravity! Have you ever seen an elderly person all bent over with age walking down the street complaining about gravity? Never! Because we cannot change gravity!

If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be, 

of course you're going to have to take that risk

You're Complaining To The Wrong Person

People always complain to the wrong people, to people who can't do anything about their complaint.

They go to work and complain about their spouse, they come home and complain to their spouse about the people at work. Why???

Because it's easier...it's less risky.

Making a change might take effort, money and time. So take risk!

Learn to replace complaining with Making Requests and Taking Action that will achieve your desired outcomes. That is what successful people do. That is what works.

So are you clear now? Stop blaming people and take 100% responsibility for you life!

Yes we can do it!!